Navigating Grief Shares the Top 10 Universal Truths, Influences on Grief

first_imgJoan Hitchens, long-time Olympia resident and life coach, helps people move forward from grief.The bleak and lonesome landscape you inhabit when you’ve lost someone you love is intensely personal.  However, despite the individual differences in everyone’s situations, navigating life after a loss has many universal truths as well.  Knowing that others are experiencing the same thing somehow makes us feel “normal” in a time that is anything but.Navigating Grief founder Joan Hitchens shares her list of things that are common to most grief experiences and the things that are unique to each individual, influencing their journey through their time of loss.Top 10 Universal Truths about Grief1. Grief is a normal response when someone you love dies. Even the anguishing ‘I can’t breathe.  Will I ever survive?’ feeling.2. There will be good days and bad days. The roller coaster is a real phenomenon.3. Someone will say something to offend you (usually unknowingly) or just say nothing at all.4. Anticipating landmark dates is almost always more difficult than the day itself.5. Exhaustion and desire to sleep will wax and wane; insomnia is very common, too.6. You will tell your story multiple times as part of actively grieving.7. You learn who true friends are and what friendship means to you.8. Crying or choking up unexpectedly is to be expected.9. Time is subjective.10. You will look for signs to connect with your loved one after the loss.Bonus universal grief: Brain fog and memory lapses are real and may continue longer than you expect. Facebook39Tweet0Pin0 Because loss is individual you are the expert on your grief.Top 10 Individual Influences on your Grief1. The circumstances of loss, such as sudden or foreseeable, violent or peaceful, impact your grieving.2. The words you tell yourself about the loss.3. Your sense of responsibility for the circumstances of the death.4. The relationship you had with the one you lost.  It can range from loving to toxic.5. Who you surround yourself with for support, and things they say to you. Seek out good listeners!6. How you care for yourself, responding to the effects of grief on your physical well-being.7. The things you do to preserve, honor and remember your loved one starting from day one, lasting for years.8. Your daily physical proximity to the one you lost.  Grief differs when a loved one lived across the country versus in your own house.9. Your role in the person’s life and you in theirs.10. Your attention to the grief process. Mindfulness counts. This ranges from becoming overly-busy to long-term stagnation.Bonus influence: Your history with death, including what you learned early in life and the number of losses you have experienced.For more thoughts from Joan Hitchens related to the universality of the grieving process, see her article, “Is My Grief Normal?”last_img read more

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LaVar Ball questions Trump’s role in son’s release

first_imgPelicans’ Cousins ejected for swinging elbow at Westbrook Jo Koy: My brain always wants to think funny Jake says relationship with Shaina ‘goes beyond physical attraction’ Steam emission over Taal’s main crater ‘steady’ for past 24 hours Margot Robbie talks about filming ‘Bombshell’s’ disturbing sexual harassment scene LaVar Ball didn’t back down during the CNN interview, telling host Chris Cuomo that Trump has more important things to do than ask for his gratitude.“That’s on your mind, that a father didn’t say ‘Thank you’? And you’re the head of the U.S.? Come on,” Ball said. “There’s a lot of other things that’s going on. Let him do his political affairs and let me handle my son, and let’s just stay in our lane.”FEATURED STORIESSPORTSRedemption is sweet for Ginebra, Scottie ThompsonSPORTSMayweather beats Pacquiao, Canelo for ‘Fighter of the Decade’SPORTSBack on the throneBall suggested that he and Chinese president Xi Jinping had more to do with securing his son’s release than the president.“Did (Trump) help the boys get out? I don’t know. If I was going to thank somebody, I probably would thank President Xi. He’s in China. He’s the president of China,” Ball said, later adding: “I helped my son get out of China. I had some people that had boots on the ground that knew the situation.” LATEST STORIES Coco’s house rules on ‘Probinsyano’ set FILE – In this July 7, 2017, file photo, LaVar Ball, father of Los Angeles Lakers’ Lonzo Ball and UCLA player LiAngelo Ball, watches the Lakers play the Los Angeles Clippers during an NBA summer league basketball game, in Las Vegas. President Donald Trump tweeted Sunday, Nov. 19, that he should have left three UCLA basketball players, including LiAngelo Ball, accused of shoplifting in China in jail after LaVar Ball minimized Trump’s involvement in winning the players’ release during an interview Saturday, Nov. 18, with ESPN. (AP Photo/John Locher, File)WASHINGTON — Outspoken basketball dad LaVar Ball questioned the extent of President Donald Trump’s involvement in securing his son’s release from the custody of Chinese authorities during a combative 20-minute CNN interview on Monday night.The president, in tweets Sunday, said he should have left LiAngelo Ball and two other UCLA basketball players accused of shoplifting in jail because LaVar Ball “is unaccepting of what I did for his son” and“very ungrateful!” LaVar Ball has refused to thank Trump.ADVERTISEMENT Ball also pushed back against Trump’s suggestion that shoplifting “is a very big deal in China.”“It wasn’t a big deal because being raised in South Central LA, I’ve seen harsher things. I’ve seen 16, 17-year-old kids that have had to go to jail for life, that were my friends,” Ball said. “He wasn’t physical. He returned it. He fessed up to it.”LiAngelo and fellow UCLA freshmen Jalen Hill and Cody Riley have been suspended indefinitely. They were arrested and questioned about stealing from high-end stores next to the team’s hotel in Hangzhou, where the Bruins stayed before leaving for Shanghai to play Georgia Tech. All three apologized for their actions and thanked Trump for his role in securing their release, which occurred while the president was traveling in Asia.The trio isn’t allowed to suit up, be on the bench for home games or travel with the team. Without them, No. 23 UCLA lost to Creighton on Monday night in the Hall of Fame Classic.LaVar Ball is attempting to build an empire around the basketball skills of his three sons — Los Angeles Lakers rookie Lonzo, LiAngelo and prep prospect LaMelo — and his own bombastic personality. He started an apparel company, Big Baller Brand, with shoes that retail for $500 or more, and he got in several plugs for his products during the CNN interview.ADVERTISEMENT It’s too early to present Duterte’s ‘legacy’ – Lacson Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next MOST READ OSG plea to revoke ABS-CBN franchise ‘a duplicitous move’ – Lacson Kiss-and-tell matinee idol’s conquests: True stories or tall tales? Jake says relationship with Shaina ‘goes beyond physical attraction’ Carpio hits red carpet treatment for China Coast Guard PLAY LIST 02:14Carpio hits red carpet treatment for China Coast Guard02:56NCRPO pledges to donate P3.5 million to victims of Taal eruption00:56Heavy rain brings some relief in Australia02:37Calm moments allow Taal folks some respite03:23Negosyo sa Tagaytay City, bagsak sa pag-aalboroto ng Bulkang Taal01:13Christian Standhardinger wins PBA Best Player award Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. View commentslast_img read more

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Security beefed up outside Camp St Prison

first_img…after 13 prison officers report sickAuthorities were left with no other choice but to calSecurity beefed up outside Camp Street Prisonl out additional joint services officers to stand guard outside the overcrowded Camp Street Prison after only two of 15 prison wardens reported for duty on Thursday morning.The decision was taken at an emergency meeting of the National Security Committee which was convened by President David Granger at Ministry of the Presidency after the matter was brought to his attention.It is suspected that the 13 prison officers submitted seven-day sick leave certificates for fear of being hurt by inmates who have since become intimidating and aggressive, following the three-day unrest that had recently erupted at the penitentiary.According to a statement from Ministry of the Presidency, the Committee was informed that the prisoners have become bolder, displaying weapons and acting menacingly towards prison wardens – resulting in prison officers becoming fearful to carry out their duties.The Committee was also informed of an increase in cases of marijuana being thrown over the prison fences and that wardens are now afraid of being harmed by prisoners who are under the influence of the drug.Seated from left: Col Khemraj Persaud, Col George Lewis (partially hidden), Minister of Legal Affairs Basil Williams, Minister of State Joe Harmon, President David Granger, Prime Minister Moses Nagamootoo, Police Commissioner Seelall Persaud, Minister of Public Security Khemraj Ramjattan, GDF Chief of Staff, Brigadier General Mark Phillips and Major General (ret’d) Michael Atterly at Ministry of the PresidencyAgainst this backdrop, the Commander-in-Chief ordered that the outer cordons of the prison be extended to include Durban, John and Bent Streets: which will be blocked off to the public except for persons residing with the areas, as is done on Camp Street.He also directed that the Guyana Police Force (GPF) assist prison officers in manning the facility and the Guyana Defence Force to assist in guarding the outer cordons of its precincts.Additionally, Director of Prisons Carl Graham also sought reinforcements from the Timehri and Lusignan Prisons as well as from the administration division at the Camp Street Prison.last_img read more

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ArcelorMittal Train Derailed en route to Buchanan

first_imgA train belonging to steel giant Arcelor Mittal derailed on Tuesday, August 2 in the LAMCO camp, Bong County, about three kilometers from the boundary with Nimba County.According to information from the Nimba County town of Duo, the train was heading from Yekapa around 4 a.m. on Tuesday, August 2 when residents heard the harsh sound of iron clashing against iron from about 10 kilometers from the accident scene.They said a sharp ‘iron sound’ trailed the train’s movement, and caused panic among residents of nearby towns and villages.“The rubbing of iron from the rail, sent huge sparks like fire and it made us think that the train was on fire,” said a security officer, who was on duty the night of the incident.When this reporter visited the scene of the derailment, most of the bolts used to tighten the rail to the wooded bed were all broken from about 10 kilometers from where the train finally derailed.The train, marked 94, was loaded with iron ore in about 70 wagons, heading for the port of Buchanan. It was about 165 kilometers from Buchanan.Inspection revealed that about 16 of the center wagons derailed, leaving 30 wagons detached behind and 27 wagons attached to the locomotive itself.The 30 wagons were later pulled back to Yekapa, while the 27 managed to reach their destination (Buchanan) on the same train.The center 16 wagons, which derailed, were on the track, causing extensive damage to the railroad. A resident said this might take the company weeks or months to repair, and could likely hamper the company’s activities.There was no report of casualty, besides the large amount of wasted ore at the scene of the incident.The cause of the derailment has been blamed on mechanical failure, according to Public Relations Manager Hesta Pearson. She, however, did not reveal the cost of the damage so far.Meanwhile, she stressed to the Daily Observer that there was never a fire as reported in some media, adding that there were no casualties or injuries during the incident.“The rail operation will resume shortly, once the derailed wagons are removed from the rail line,” she concluded.Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)last_img read more

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Shell makes $10,000 donation to Fort St. John Association for Community Living

first_imgTo view more about, 100 Women who Care; CLICK HERE FORT ST. JOHN, B.C. – At the fundraising event ‘Of the Vine’ for the Fort St. John Association for Community Living (FSJACL), Shell donated $10,000 towards the purchase of a new wheelchair accessible bus.Mindy-Lou Henyu, on behalf of Shell, presented the cheque for $10,000 on stage.The FSJACL was a recent recipient of $19,200 from the 100 Women Who Care Event.- Advertisement -Sheri Lynn Ashdown, the Employment Coordinator for the FSJACL, shared, the money will be used to purchase a new wheelchair accessible bus. One of the Association’s homes has five residents that use wheelchairs.The sold-out fundraiser, ‘Of the Vine,’ was held Saturday, October 19th, 2019, at the Pomeroy Hotel and Conference Centre with entertainment by Dayna Manning and Nat Baimel.To view more about, Of the Vine; CLICK HERE Advertisementlast_img read more

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James wary of Real’s Champions League ‘chip’

first_img“They use a different ‘chip’ in the Champions League than they do in the (Spanish) league and manage to get the most out of themselves,” James told Munich-based newspaper TZ.“They know what it takes to fight for this trophy year after year, after all they have made history in the European Cup and the Champions League.”After three mediocre years at the Bernabeu, where he failed to regularly force his way into Real’s star-studded team, James has rediscovered his best form this season amid a two-year loan deal at Bayern.Real could win the Champions League title for the third straight season — and the 13th time in the club’s history — in the Kiev final on May 26.Bayern have every reason to be wary of Real, who knocked them out of the Champions League last season.Cristiano Ronaldo has scored seven goals in his last three matches against the Bundesliga giants including two in each of his last two games at Munich’s Allianz Arena.The Portuguese superstar has already scored 15 goals in the Champions League this season.“He is a goal machine and has proven it time and time again,” said Colombia star James, the top-scorer at the 2014 World Cup.“He is always there when needed, as proven by his numbers.“We need to produce a top team performance so he doesn’t have his best day.“You have to take care of him, but Real Madrid is not just Ronaldo.“It won’t be easy, that’s for sure.”A pair of second-half goals by Ronaldo sealed Real’s 2-1 win in the 2017 quarter-final first leg in Munich before the Germans went down 4-2 after extra-time in the Madrid return.But James said there’s no talk of revenge: “I think we should not see the two games against Real as revenge for last year, but simply as two more games on the way to the final.“Of course, the encounters between these teams are almost always unique, but we have to focus on standing up to a team like Real Madrid.”James claims to have been indifferent when Bayern drew Real.“When you go that far in a competition, it does not really matter which opponent you get,” he said.“Real Madrid, as well as Liverpool and Roma, are tough opponents.“With all of them, you have to go to the limit to reach one more round.“What really matters is that we now keep calm, believe in ourselves and play two strong games.“That’s just what I want.”0Shares0000(Visited 1 times, 1 visits today) 0Shares0000Portugal forward Cristiano Ronaldo and his Real Madrid teammates habitually up their game for the Champions League, says on-loan Bayern star James Rodriguez © AFP/File / OSCAR DEL POZOBERLIN, Germany, Apr 17 – They may sit third in the Spanish league, but when it comes to the Champions League holders Real Madrid simply engage a special ‘chip’, says James Rodriguez.On loan at Bayern Munich, who host his ex-club Real in the first-leg of the Champions League semi-final next Wednesday, James says the Spanish giants’ strength is knowing how to conjure up their best performances in Europe.last_img read more

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GALLAGHER WINS BALLYARE 10K – WHERE DID YOU COME?

first_imgGerard Gallagher of Finn Valley won last night’s Ballyare 10K in a time of 33.16 followed by Ciaran McGonagle in 36.10.More than 100 runners tok part in the event.The following are the runners and their finishing times. Place Time No. FirstName Surname Category Club1 33.16 103 Gerard Gallagher SM Finn Valley A.C.2 36.10 148 Ciaran McGonagle SM Rosses AC3 36.23 120 Noel Diver SM Rosses AC 4 36.58 80 Liam Doherty SM Cranford AC5 36.58 104 John Sweeney SM Cranford AC6 37.16 165 Brian Crossan SM Individual7 37.17 72 Jude O’Donnell M40+ Individual8 37.30 73 Raymond Birch SM Letterkenny A.C. 9 38.35 102 Paul Doherty SM 24/7 Triathlon Club10 38.40 144 Brian Ferry SM Letterkenny A.C.11 39.28 155 Paul Murray SM Finn Valley A.C.12 39.31 156 Barry Coyle SM Individual 13 39.42 130 Paul Dillon M40+ Individual14 39.46 77 Joe Gallagher M40+ Milford A C15 39.58 71 Pat Hegarty M50+ Finn Valley A.C.16 39.59 68 Anthony Doherty M45+ Individual17 40.03 66 Joe Hegarty M40+ Individual18 40.11 65 Michael McHugh M40+ Milford A C19 40.27 97 Damien McGoohan SM 24/7 Triathlon Club20 40.28 112 Raymond McGahey M40+ Individual21 40.29 83 Nick Fowell M40+ 24/7 Triathlon Club22 40.30 79 Paul Cullen SM 24/7 Triathlon Club23 40.31 99 Paul Lynch SM 24/7 Triathlon Club24 40.46 163 Michael Murphy SM Cranford AC25 41.11 85 Gerard McGettigan M50+ Milford A C26 41.15 161 Mark Connolly M50+ Finn Valley A.C.27 41.16 114 Des Goyvaarts SM Individual28 41.18 157 Declan McCann SM Individual29 41.43 124 Adrian Gill SM UHG30 42.10 94 Colm McTaggart SM Individual31 42.13 98 Brian Doherty SM Milford A C32 42.17 134 Terry McFadden SM Milford A C33 42.19 123 Johnathon Edwards SM Individual34 42.43 149 Francis Gildea SM Individual35 42.51 75 Eugene McGettigan SM 24/7 Triathlon Club36 42.54 146 Karl Crossan SM Individual37 42.55 136 Paul Gildea SM Individual38 43.11 160 Kieran McMonagle SM Individual39 43.31 91 Daniel Cullen SM Letterkenny A.C.40 43.33 140 Paddy McCauley SM Individual41 43.33 135 Patricia Nulty SW Milford A C42 43.34 122 Hugh Coll M40+ Individual43 43.40 84 James Gibbons M50+ Milford A C44 43.43 141 Carl McGinley JM Individual45 43.52 162 Paul Friel M40+ Milford A C46 44.19 107 P.J Lyons M40+ Individual47 44.25 151 Paul Lee M40+ Letterkenny A.C.48 44.43 132 Emma McGee SW Letterkenny A.C.49 44.49 119 Gavin McCrossan SM Individual50 44.52 82 Tony Gallagher M50+ Finn Valley A.C.51 44.58 131 James Whoriskey SM Milford A C52 45.02 87 Mark Houston JM Individual53 45.06 106 Noreen Bonner W50+ Finn Valley A.C.54 45.14 126 Gerard McConnell SM Individual55 45.51 143 Ciaran Burke SM Individual56 46.12 86 Gerard Dorrian M50+ Individual57 46.41 133 Catherine McKinley SW Letterkenny A.C.58 46.45 142 Eugene McGinley M40+ Individual59 46.52 96 Seamus Ferry M40+ Milford A C60 46.52 125 Tim Flanagan M40+ Milford A C61 46.58 154 John Ward SM Milford A C62 47.15 90 David Connors SM Milford A C63 47.31 129 Darren Ferry SM Individual64 47.55 110 Mary Hippsley W40+ Finn Valley A.C.65 47.56 88 Martin Anderson M40+ Finn Valley A.C.66 47.57 101 conor Mc Gonagle M40+ Finn Valley A.C.67 47.58 92 Liam McGinty M40+ Finn Valley A.C.68 47.59 67 Joseph Casey M40+ Individual69 48.00 111 Sean O’Leary M50+ Finn Valley A.C.70 48.06 129 Darren Ferry SM Individual71 48.42 105 John Ferry M40+ Individual72 48.43 100 Marian Kerr W35+ Letterkenny A.C.73 49.02 108 John Pollock M50+ Individual74 49.13 89 Brian Duffy M40+ Individual75 49.23 128 Margaret Shields W45+ Letterkenny A.C.76 49.38 150 Kenneth Moore M40+ Milford A C77 50.22 145 Catherine Regan SW Letterkenny A.C.78 50.23 138 Shaun O’Donnell M50+ Lifford AC79 50.34 152 Derek Brennan SM Individual80 50.41 69 James Doherty SM Milford A C81 50.47 118 Claire Molloy SW Individual82 50.47 116 David Doherty SM Individual83 50.52 164 Francesca Patton SW Convoy Runners84 50.55 137 Noel Kilpatrick SM Milford A C85 51.22 147 Gary Price SM Individual86 51.23 166 John Carr SM Individual87 51.25 167 Paul Thornton SM Individual88 51.29 78 Mark Gildea SM Individual89 51.40 109 Aidan Dorrian JM Milford A C90 51.46 117 Barry Fox SM Individual91 52.10 158 Oliver Gallagher SM Individual92 52.14 95 Darina Ferry W40+ Milford A C93 52.31 74 Bridgeen Doherty SW Individual94 52.41 76 Hugh O’Donnell M50+ Individual95 54.02 70 Tommy Naughton SM Individual96 54.26 81 Mary Martin W60+ Finn Valley A.C.97 57.06 115 Christine Coyle W40+ Milford A C98 59.49 93 Ann Doherty M60+ Milford A C99 60.10 121 John Lafferty M40+ Individual100 61.16 64 Lisa Smith W40+ Bangor101 62.44 159 Rachael Gallagher SW IndividualTotal Runners: 101GALLAGHER WINS BALLYARE 10K – WHERE DID YOU COME? was last modified: August 16th, 2014 by StephenShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Tags:ballyare 10kGerard Gallagherlast_img read more

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BREAKING NEWS: KAVANAGH COULD BE OUT OF CAVAN CLASH

first_imgRory Kavanagh could miss Donegal’s Ulster SFC quarter-final clash with Cavan on June 12 after picking up an ankle injury in a club game on Tuesday.Kavanagh is understood to have suffered a recurrence of an old injury and there are said to be genuine worries over his fitness for the Ulster clash.The Donegal player lined out for St Eunan’s 48 hours after Donegal’s preliminary round win over Antrim. A full round of Donegal League matches took place on Tuesday evening.And serious questions are being asked about why senior games were timed so close to an Ulster Championship match.BREAKING NEWS: KAVANAGH COULD BE OUT OF CAVAN CLASH was last modified: May 19th, 2011 by gregShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)last_img read more

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THREE MEN ARRESTED AFTER ‘SUSPICIOUS’ ACTIVITY

first_imgTwo men are due to appear in court today after being arrested by Gardai monitoring suspicious activity in the Mountcharles area.The men were arrested yesterday at 5pm after Gardai set up road checkpoints.Two men in their 20s are due to appear today while a third man is still being questioned. THREE MEN ARRESTED AFTER ‘SUSPICIOUS’ ACTIVITY was last modified: February 1st, 2013 by StephenShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)last_img read more

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